Oh, God. I’m scared.
This is what you are s’posed to have done by four month mark. My four month mark has come and gone.
THIS MONTHS TO DOS
Decide on a budget and hash out who’s contributing.
Knot Hint: For a quick and easy way to determine a budget, use The Knot Budgeter.
Pick your preferences for a wedding date and time, and finalize after okaying with important guests, location, or officiant.
Start interviewing caterers.
Start looking for an officiant who suits your style and spirit.
Choose a color scheme, if you so desire, taking into account the decor of the rooms/areas you have reserved for your ceremony and reception.
Decide on a caterer. Hash out a rough price per head and begin working on a menu.
Finalize the guest list.
Knot hint: When you’re done, make your life easy by entering everything into the Guest List Manager.
Start investigating any ethnic customs or cultural traditions you might want to incorporate into your ceremony or reception.
Sign your caterer contract and send in a deposit.
If you’ve chosen an outdoor ceremony or reception site, look into tent and lighting rentals.
Set up appointments with various florists to discuss options.
Decide on and meet with your officiant to discuss ceremony structure and any religious requirements (such as counseling).
Interview and get price lists from several photographers and videographers.
Knot Hint: Talk to your photographer about posting your photos using The Knot Photo Album so you can see your photos online and share them with friends.
If you plan to use frequent flyer miles to travel to your honeymoon destination, book your flight now.
Start looking into registering for gifts.
Knot Hint: Register from the comfort of your keyboard at The Knot Gift Registry.
Think about how you might want to wear your hair.
Reserve photographer and/or videographer, decide on a package, sign contract, and send deposit.
Knot Hint: Register your photographer with The Knot Photo Album.
Begin looking for a baker to make your big-day cake. Your caterer is the best source for leads.
Choose your florist and send a deposit to reserve their services.
Register for your wedding gifts, and don’t forget to include some choices appropriate for your upcoming bridal shower or engagement party as well.
Set aside blocks of hotel rooms for out-of-town guests.
Book a baker, choose your wedding cake design, and send a deposit.
Brides: Order your gown. Make sure you’ve asked all the critical questions and your order contains the correct information.
Start planning the rehearsal dinner. Provide the host with contact information for your attendants and any other guests.
Finalize your invitation wording.
Finalize menu and service details with caterer.
Order your invitations and announcements (don’t forget plenty of extra envelopes).
Start thinking about flower arrangement styles you like, and figure out what flowers will be in season on your wedding day.
Decide on a floral scheme, choose flowers, and negotiate prices with florist. Be sure to sign a contract outlining what you agreed upon.
Grooms: Decide what style of formalwear you will be wearing.
Reserve tables, chairs, and/or other rental equipment you’ll need (unless caterer or site is taking care of it).
Grooms: Start looking to buy or rent tux, suit, or other formal attire.
Book rehearsal-dinner site.
Compile packages for out-of-town guests with hotel reservation and city information, and mail them out.
Book hotel room for your wedding night.
Book your honeymoon flights (if not using frequent flyer miles) and make all your other travel reservations.
If you haven’t registered yet, be sure to do so before any upcoming prewedding parties.
Knot Hint: At least get a few items on your list. See the selection at The Knot Gift Registry.
Brides: Experiment with your beauty routine, self-tanners, and facials.
Consider specific ceremony and reception decoration needs like a huppah, aisle runner, etc.
Shop for and purchase wedding bands.